Archive for December, 2007

Plane Ticket to Orlando: $400
Rental Car in Orlando: $150
Telling Your Mom You Have a Boyfriend on Christmas Morning: Priceless

When I arrived in Orlando late Christmas Eve, the car rental company was out of cars. They told me to rent from another company and I’d be reimbursed. I did so, at a premium, and am still waiting on my reimbursement.

I then drove to the hotel, which was out of rooms. They had to upgrade me to a pretty sweet suite and since I had used Priceline and already saved a bundle, this was a nice Christmas present.

I got up Christmas morning and, after wrapping presents on my dining room table, I headed for my brother’s house, where my Mom was also staying. This would be the first time I had seen my Mom (or brother) since coming out.

This was also the first opportunity I had to meet my niece and she is quite a bundle. Born in August, she is a well behaved baby and a fat one at that. I think I will like being an uncle.

We began to open presents and I was given a bag of peanut M&M’s. I offered them to my brother and my Mom didn’t understand why. I told her that I didn’t eat peanuts anymore and she insisted to know why. I told her that I didn’t eat peanuts because the man I kiss is allergic. She was stunned and asked if my brother and sister-in-law heard what I had said. They had not so I repeated it. My brother started laughing uncontrollably, sister-in-law asked if I had a boyfriend and Mom was still trying to figure out how to pick her jaw up off the floor. I offered to take a picture with Mom and the bag of peanut M&M’s but she declined.

After opening presents and answering too many questions about Bell Guy, we played with my sister-in-law’s new Nintendo Wii and I decided that I wanted one.

Mom and I later went to a Japanese steakhouse for dinner and, although I was peppered with more Bell Guy questions, it was an enjoyable evening at my favorite Orlando area restaurant.

The next day was spent hanging out with Mom, brother and niece at Celebration and I left to go home the day after. All in all, a nice visit and Mom behaved herself quite well.

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Merry Christmas!


My plane hit Santa on the way to Orlando.

Hope you’re having a great day with your friends and family.

Love you guys.

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I’ve been busy trying to get the rest of my shopping done and have that accomplished now thankfully. I get on a plane later today and fly to Orlando for a couple days.

Ok, back to Bell Guy and attempting to get the blog caught up to where we are…

Sometime over the weekend following the dinner and late night we decided to be an exclusive couple. He had mentioned the possibility of me being his boyfriend while at his place but I really didn’t feel like getting into that conversation at that moment. The decision was not difficult however. He is a great guy and it is not my personality to date around. I have decided that just because he is the first local guy I’ve been involved with, it would be foolish to dismiss him because of my inexperience.

The following Monday we met at Maggianos for dinner. I love that place, but recently, it has just been ok. They nearly dropped an entire tray of food on my head on my birthday (literally missed me by inches) a few weeks ago and things did not improve this time around. Service was just ok as was the food. Oh well, the company was more important anyway.

During dinner, Bell Guy mentioned that he needed new pillows so I said we should go to Macys and check them out after dinner. So, after dinner, we walked over to Macys and he spent forever picking out pillows. It was rather amusing. He took several pillows, put them on the bed and tried them out. While doing this, he was sticking his ass out and it was driving me crazy. So damn hot. I didn’t say anything to him about it until the next day or so and he laughed because he was not doing anything intentionally.

After Macys, we walked to a sitting area in the mall, which was very quiet by now, and just chatted for a while. We then walked to our cars and kissed goodnight.

He texted me about 30 minutes later and said he had a reaction to our kiss. No, not a good one. See, Bell Guy has a severe peanut allergy and I guess I had peanut residue on my lips. Before meeting him for dinner, I had gone home and changed clothes and brushed my teeth like I always do because I munch on peanuts from a colleague’s peanut jar at work. Well, I guess I didn’t wash my lips adequately. The reaction was mild (no doctor visits necessary) but freaked us both out and I felt terrible. I have since given up all nuts and pretty much live like I have a nut allergy. He says that isn’t necessary but I am not willing to risk any more problems.

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An Awakening

I know I have been bad. It has been many days since I had a meaningful post. Truth is, I have been spending virtually all of my free time with Bell Guy. I do not know where to begin to catch up, but I am going to try. I want to be able to look back at this and have a pretty accurate record of what’s gone on.

So, going way back…about two weeks ago to our third date. We met for dinner on Friday and were trying to figure out what to do next. We chatted at the restaurant until about 9pm and really had no idea of what to do next. I decided I wanted to see his place and suggested we head there. After some convincing, he agreed. (He didn’t want me to have to drive all the way there and back.)

When we got to his place, we sat on his sofa and chatted and cuddled. That soon led to making out and we were uncomfortable on the sofa so we went over to his bed.

I think it was that night I discovered that someone kissing my neck passionately totally makes me hot. Bell Guy is intense in bed and very good. I am not going to get into more detail than that except to say we didn’t go all the way that night but got far enough and we both really enjoyed it. Laying on his bed naked with him and just talking and holding one another was amazing. It was an awakening for me.

I didn’t want to leave him but did about 3am.

Stay tuned because I am determined to get caught up before Christmas!

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Zac Efron

I have gotten slammed by Zac Efron fans! Like, hundreds and hundreds a day. I do not know which search engine you all are using, but I’ll throw you a bone with two more pics. Merry Christmas!



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A few updates:

– I have not heard a word from Boston Guy since sending him the message the other night. He is done with school so I have little doubt that he has read it. I said hi to him on aim tonight and he chose not to reply. I hope I have not lost a friend but there is not a lot more that I can do and my message to him was sincere and from the heart.

– Things with Bell Guy have been going nicely. I do not even know where to start. We’ve been out four times, and each date was pretty long, so I have spent a lot of time with him in the last week. I almost need to pinch myself each day because I realize how lucky I am to have found him. I’ve just been totally swept off my feet. I’ll try to put some posts together about our times together soon. I am seeing him tomorrow and feel like a little kid on Christmas Eve: I just can’t wait!

There have been some implications with my wife the amount of time I have spent with Bell Guy and I need to blog about that too. Nothing crazy, but I am taking some new steps and it has an effect on her too. I am trying to strike a balance…

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Well, the acting Surgeon General says so. He wants the fat ass to slim down, saying Santa is a role model.


Now, I think he is a role model. Santa proves that if you eat your way around the world in one night, you’ll become fat. Kids should take notice.

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Bell Guy and I have been progressing and I’ll blog about that later. Tonight it was time to tell Boston Guy and this message to him was the hardest thing I’ve had to do since I came out to my wife. (Ironically that happened and this blog was born exactly three months ago today.) Why does being happy have to make me feel so sad?

Dear (Boston Guy),

It is only fair that I let you know that I met someone a week ago. It was just a date but I really like him and he really likes me. We’ve been out a few times now and I expect things will continue to get serious. I am happy.

I really wasn’t expecting this to happen so soon but it did. When we agreed that I needed to date, I somehow thought (actually hoped) that I’d have many first dates and they wouldn’t work out and that we’d somehow find a way to make things work, even with the distance between us. I guys that is why writing this is so difficult. We always said if it was meant to be, it would be. I still believe that.

I don’t know where we’ve been the last two months. We haven’t chatted much and, although I know you’ve been busy, I hoped for more, especially when I sent you the flowers or even a stupid random text. I feel like I tried as hard as I could but always hoped things would be fine.

I told you a long time ago that you’d always be special to me and that is probably why the tears flow as I type this. You’ll always truly be a part of me and who I have become and I thank you eternally for that. I think you know that. Over two years is a long time and I will forever cherish the visit we had and you consistently assuring me that me being gay wasn’t wrong. I’ve come so far and learned so much from you. I was just a shy curious guy a couple years and now look at me. I’ve come so far and you were responsible for almost all of it. Few people will ever really realize that about me but I’ll never forget it.

I am very proud of you for your accomplishments in school and you deserve the very best in life. I hope that all of your dreams, personal and professional, come true.

While this may sound like a goodbye, it is far from it. We’ve talked about remaining friends forever and I hope that we do that. I am very sincere when I say that and I look forward to talking to you soon.


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As I previously blogged, I planned to meet Bell Guy again tonight. The weather today was a snowy mess, the first snow of the season, and there were a ton of accidents. Bell Guy decided to work from home, but we still decided to meet.

We went to dinner first. Initially, I was feeling kind of “off” tonight, and I’ll blog about that tomorrow when I post about my feelings about Bell Guy. The dinner went fine and the conversation was good as usual and then we went to a movie. As soon as we sat down, he grabbed my hand and I liked that. He alternated between my hand and my leg and I rested my head on his shoulder. We continued to cuddle throughout the movie, which is just something that I never do with anyone hardly ever, much less in a public setting, albeit dark. I was never very affectionate towards my wife and now I understand why (the gay thing in case you aren’t following). Anyways, after the movie, he walked me to my car and we hugged and kissed. Another great evening.

He originally was having a friend come into town all weekend and tonight was to be the last time I’d see him until Sunday evening at the earliest. We talked briefly during the trip to our respective homes and he said he had just spoken with her and she was now going to be coming in on Saturday. He said he would now be free Friday evening if I wanted to get together. I said that would be great and we’d talk tomorrow.

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I’ve been emailing and chatting with Bell Guy since before Thanksgiving. Last night, we talked on the phone for over two hours and really hit it off. A good guy: established in his field of work, 32 years old, adores his family and friends, been in long term relationships before. His pic indicated he was a cutie to boot.

We made arrangements last week to meet tonight. I was a little apprehensive because he said he was not very masculine and I still think I am more attracted to masculine guys. However, I really wanted to go into this date with an open mind because, as I have blogged previously, I am not experienced enough with my new self to have a type and I certainly should not be dismissive of guys who clearly have a good heart. I’m really not good at being gay and any practice I get interacting with gay men would be beneficial, I told myself.

We met for dinner and he is a cutie. He was very well put together. Immaculate in dress, hair, even nails! (The god damn waiter kept flirting with him, to an extreme really, and I was tempted to say something to said waiter. Since it was a first date, I did not.) We had a nice conversation with dinner and I really tried to be outgoing and did fine. He was really interested in what I had to say and I had the same feeling towards him. Following dinner and lots of conversation afterwards, we walked around the mall.

It was near closing time so the mall was not crowded, which was refreshing. We went into a couple of stores but mostly walked and talked. We kind of flirted, nudging one another, and I was an eager participant in that.

Once it came time to leave, it turned out we had parked near one another so we made our way to our cars. When we got nearby, we kind of stood there. It was so cold and so windy. It was a little awkward because he knows I am not comfortable with public displays of affection yet and he reminded me of that. I told him a hug would be nice so he hugged me and then kissed me on my right cheek. I turned to my right and then our lips locked. It was nice. We did that a couple of times. It wasn’t just nice. It was really nice. I’ve only kissed a of couple guys and this was meaningful to me. We then said our goodbyes and retreated to our cars.

We plan to meet again Wednesday. Yay!

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