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One more step, albeit small, towards equality.

By Michael D. Shear
Washington Post staff writer
Thursday, April 15, 2010; 8:08 PM

President Obama on Thursday signed a memorandum requiring hospitals to allow gays and lesbians to have non-family visitors and to grant their partners medical power of attorney.

The president ordered the Department of Health and Human Services to prohibit discrimination in hospital visitation. The memo is scheduled to be made public Friday morning, according to an administration official and another source familiar with the White House decision.

An official said the new rule will affect any hospital that receives Medicare or Medicaid funding.

The decision injects the president squarely into the debate over gay marriage by attempting to end the common practice by many hospitals of insisting that only family members by blood or marriage be allowed to visit patients.

Gay activists have argued for years that recognizing gay marriages would ease the emotional pain associated with not being able to visit their partners during a health crisis.

By contrast, opponents of gay marriage have said the visitation issue is a red herring, and have argued that advocates want to provide special rights for gays and lesbians that others do not have.

The memorandum from Obama to HHS Secretary Kathleen Sebelius, made public late Thursday night, orders new rules that would ensure hospitals “respect the rights of patients to designate visitors.”

Obama says the new rules should require that hospitals not deny visitation privileges on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity.

“Every day, all across America, patients are denied the kindnesses and caring of a loved one at their sides whether in a sudden medical emergency or a prolonged hospital stay,” Obama says in the memo.

Affected, he said, are “gay and lesbian American who are often barred from the bedsides of the partners with whom they may have spent decades of their lives — unable to be there for the person they love, and unable to act as a legal surrogate if their partner is incapacitated.”

Obama’s actions are the latest attempt by his administration to slowly advance the agenda of a constituency that strongly supported his presidential campaign.

In his first 15 months in office, Obama has hailed the passage of hate crime legislation and hosted the first gay pride day celebration at the White House. Last month, Obama’s top military and defense officials testified before Congress in favor of getting rid of the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy for gays in the military.

But the moves have been too slow for some in the gay community, who have urged the president to champion their causes head-on. One prominent gay blogger, John Aravosis, wrote last October that Obama’s “track record on keeping his gay promises has been fairly abominable.”

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I spent the entire weekend with Bell Guy, which was very nice and fun!

We spent part of Saturday lunching in Georgetown and looked at a couple of open houses. The plan is to move in together once I get my situation resolved and my current residence sold. I will not continue to live in Virginia, as there are no gay rights in Virginia and none planned. So, it is either going to be DC or Maryland and I am trying to learn the neighborhoods.

While I never talk about sex, I wanted to make a note for myself on here that I really had my first real good sex as a bottom on Saturday. I had been successful before but this was the first time that it really clicked for both of us. While I prefer being a top, Bell Guy wants a versatile sexual relationship and I am committed to doing everything I can to make that happen. So, the weekend was a sexual milestone so to speak for me.

We tried to see Atonement Saturday night but it was sold out. Since this was not a blockbuster and has been in theaters a long time, I was a little surprised that we could not get in. I guess everyone wanted to see the movie before the Oscars. Bell Guy had been talking about wanting to see the movie for weeks so he was disappointed. I decided that we’d get up early on Sunday and see the 10 AM showing. In order to force me to wake up that early on a Sunday, we decided to buy the tickets Saturday night. So, Sunday morning we were up and in the movies at 10 AM. I thought Atonement was okay. Of the last ten movies I have seen, I’m not sure it would make the top five.

The rest of the day Sunday was spent looking at more open houses. We then went to dinner and watched the Oscars. I drove home late Sunday night.

Earlier in the post, I alluded to moving in with Bell Guy. I really can’t wait for that to happen.  🙂

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