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Vegas Baby!


I am in Las Vegas for a quick conference. I arrived tonight (my god I forgot how long that flight is from the East Coast) and fly back Saturday. Ironically, I’m here with Gossip. Although I do not always agree with her methods, we generally have fun together. I’m not much of a gambler but we are going to see the show Phantom tomorrow, which I am looking forward to. That and the opportunity to drool over hot packs of gays, which I already spotted in the airport, will make for a fun few days. On a different note, I watched Hairspray on the plane and loved it!

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I swear some days I think I am paid simply to babysit. The people that report to me are generally twice my age yet they act like they are in kindergarten.

The manager (known here as “Gossip”) that found it fun to gossip about my sexuality got into it with another manager today (“Hard Head”). They have to work together. That is just the way it is. Well Gossip tells Hard Head that Hard Head simply is not a good person at heart and, therefore, she has no time for her. This caused Hard Head to cry and call me.

So I got to debate with Gossip, who is fairly new to the company, how she never gave Hard Head a fair chance and, instead, allowed others’ opinions to influence her before she even met Hard Head. (Again, gossiping in the workplace rears its ugly head and does nothing but slow productivity and hurt others.) Gossip doesn’t see it that way but the truth is, while Hard Head can be a pushy bitch, she is a good person at heart. She cares about the company, her office, her community and her family. Sometimes she just rolls right over others without considering their feelings. So, I’m saying her intent is good, but her approach is not. Gossip doesn’t put up with that. So, I told Gossip, who I consider important to my division, that she had to call Hard Head and they were going to go to lunch next week. Boy she hated to hear that. Idiots.

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Out to an Old Friend

I was chatting with a friend that I’ve known for fifteen years last night. He works at my company and has been really busy on a large project the last six months. We haven’t seen each other much since the project began. He asked how things were going, and I was debating whether to tell him about me coming out to my wife. At first, because he is a co-worker, I was not going to say anything. Then I figured the hell with it and told him. He thought I was kidding at first but that quickly changed. He was very supportive and apologized that he had not been around the last several months. He promised to keep his mouth shut at work and I think he will. We’re going out tomorrow night and that should be fun. This was the first local straight friend I’ve come out to and I’m glad I did it.

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I haven’t updated ya’ll on me lately, so here’s a quick one.

Turns out one of my most trusted managers approached the gay co-worker, in an affiliated company, that knows of my situation. The manager asked her if she thought I could be gay. Well, the co-worker somehow acted shocked at the question and said no. The manager said that she has noticed some effeminate characteristics in me lately. The co-worker basically told the manager she thought she was crazy. She did ask, if it were the case, would she have a problem with it? The manager said no. I have to say I am pretty shocked because I just do not think I have any of those characteristics. I have been more vocal recently on gay rights and I have been speaking to the gay co-worker more often as well so I do think that may have something to do with it. Also, this manager seems to spend a lot of time speculating on the sexuality of others. I am not worried about her starting any rumors, because she just is not that foolish, and that would cause her tenure at our company to end abruptly. I am disappointed, however, because I considered this person a friend.

Honestly, I was really contemplating coming out to the manager and another employee at the office. However, after seeing the gossiping that takes place now, there is no way I trust them to keep their mouths shut. I have a high profile position in my company and my credibility is everything. I guess the issue that I cannot overcome in my mind is that I think others will think less of me, not because I am gay, but because I got married. I will not have an opportunity to share my story with all of these people, not that it is any of their business. I do want to come out because I think every time someone comes out, it dispels stereotypes and helps the entire gay rights situation by bringing a real face to everything.

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That was the text on an air freshener that was hanging on the rear view mirror of the car parked next to me at the mall today. People walking by must have been wondering what I was laughing at while getting into my car.

I had a really busy weekend, mostly because of work. I finally completed an online class I have been putting off. This was the last module (most were classroom sessions) needed to obtain a pretty prestigious certification for work. The class was supposed to take 8 hours but I got it done in about half that time, probably because it was designed for people close to twice my age. I just need to apply for the certification now and it will be mine. Yay me! I also spent a few hours working on a small project for a big convention we hare having this week. I will be glad when it is over as the entire event is my responsibility and is making my life more stressful than it needs to be.

For that upcoming event I bought a new suit and dress shirt at the mall today. It probably isn’t as hip as Eric’s new outfit, but I am clearly not the fashionista that he is. The suit is a navy pinstripe Calvin Klein model and the shirt a Nordstrom white dress shirt that I do not have to iron- sweet!). I’ll probably wear my Timberland dress shoes and I haven’t decided on the tie or boxers I will be wearing yet. LOL. Thankfully I virtually never have to suit up but this event on Thursday warrants it. I finished the evening by going to dinner with my wife, who already has a cold, and she has only been back at school for two weeks. Damn sickly middle school kids!

I was completely thrilled that OJ was locked up today. Hopefully, he won’t wriggle out of these charges and will serve some prison time.

I learned Friday night that a group of thugs had thrown a 16-year-old transgender girl through a plate glass window in DC Thursday night. One of said thugs (a 17-year-old male) was promptly arrested and it was reported that he had been arrested twice last week for throwing bricks at cars being operated by gay men. Now, how the hell do you get arrested three times in one week? Are you that fucking slow that you cannot run from the police or do you just not give a damn? Regardless, he has now been charged with a hate crime and remains in jail. The other thugs apparently got away, so many he is just a fat thug that cannot run fast. I used to have quite a bit of involvement with a local police department, as a volunteer cop, and instances like this make me think about getting involved again. That is a post for another time.

I was remiss last night in not mentioning that I have great parents and I appreciated Mom’s response to my letter. She loves my wife so this entire mess will be hard on Mom too. I have not heard from Dad yet.

My goal this week with this blog is to get into my Cast of Characters a little bit and begin to post about how I came to discover that I am gay.

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